Self-worth and identity as a young woman is something many of us don’t fully understand until we start reflecting on our experiences.
This week on To All The Girls Out There, I sat down with Gloria for a conversation that wasn’t about giving answers, but about exploring what it actually means to grow into yourself.
We spoke about confidence, identity, and self-worth. But more than that, we spoke about what it actually feels like to navigate those things in real life, without pretending to have it all together.
Understanding Self-Worth and Identity as a Young Woman
When we talk about confidence, it’s usually framed as something visible. Being outgoing, self-assured. The kind of confidence people can immediately recognise.
But what came up in this conversation is that confidence doesn’t always look like that.
Sometimes it’s much quieter.
It’s choosing to trust yourself, even when you’re unsure. It’s backing your decisions without needing constant validation. It’s being okay with not having all the answers, but still moving forward anyway.
And I think a lot of us underestimate that version of confidence, because it’s not the one that gets the most attention.
Gloria spoke in a way that made it clear that confidence isn’t something you suddenly “arrive at.” It’s something you build, often in moments where no one else is watching.
Figuring Out Who You Are (Without Rushing It)
One of the biggest things this conversation made me reflect on is how much pressure we put on ourselves to have everything figured out.
Who we are. What we want. Where we’re going.
As if there’s a timeline we’re supposed to be following.
But the reality is, identity isn’t something you solve once and move on from. It’s something that keeps evolving as you grow, as your environment changes, and as you experience different versions of life.
There was something really grounding about the way Gloria spoke about this. It wasn’t rushed or forced. It felt honest.
Like allowing yourself to be in the process of figuring things out, instead of constantly feeling behind for not having the answers yet.
And I think that’s something a lot of girls need to hear.
Self-Worth Isn’t Something You Earn
Ultimately, self-worth and identity as a young woman isn’t something you arrive at — it’s something you continuously grow into.
Because a lot of the time, we treat self-worth like something we have to prove.
Through achievements. Through how productive we are. Through how other people see us.
But when you really think about it, that means your sense of worth is constantly dependent on something external.
And that’s exhausting.
What this conversation kept coming back to, is that self-worth is something you decide, not something you wait to receive.
That doesn’t mean it’s easy. It doesn’t mean you wake up one day and suddenly feel completely secure in yourself.
But it does mean starting to notice the ways you might be tying your value to things that were never meant to define it in the first place.
This is also something I go deeper into in my Standing on Business wake-up call guide
As a reminder to come back to yourself. It’s about grounding yourself in who you are, backing yourself properly, and remembering your worth even when you don’t feel it fully.
Listen to the Full Conversation
If any part of this resonated with you, I’d really recommend listening to the full episode with Gloria, it’s at the top of this page.
There’s so much more in the conversation that you can only really understand by hearing it unfold naturally — the pauses, the honesty, the moments that aren’t perfectly worded but feel real.
If you really want to make a change in your life you can listen to this episode or read where we speak about changing your life as a young woman. x
