In this episode, we’re talking about something that’s become really common online but not often questioned properly. The pressure to have high standards, know your worth, and never let anyone “play” you.
I love the message behind self-worth and boundaries. But I think somewhere along the way, it’s started to feel like if you get hurt, deceived, or disappointed, it automatically means you did something wrong.
And that raises a bigger question: are we actually building self-trust… or are we trying to control outcomes we were never meant to control?
In this episode, we talk about the difference between discernment and control, why getting hurt doesn’t make you weak or naïve, and why self-trust matters more than trying to predict every outcome in life.
We also explore how social media has shaped the way we view relationships, decisions, and even our own judgment, and why that can sometimes lead to unnecessary self-blame.
At its core, this episode is a reminder that you can do everything “right” and still not be able to control how someone else behaves, and knowing that that doesn’t make you less wise.
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ Why “high standards” doesn’t mean you’ll never get hurt
✨ The fear of being fooled and where it actually comes from
✨ Discernment vs control (and why they’re not the same thing)
✨ Why self-trust is more important than certainty
✨ How social media affects the way we judge ourselves
✨ Why getting hurt isn’t proof you lacked wisdom
✨ Learning to make decisions you can stand by, even when outcomes are uncertain
Reflection questions (from the episode) 🤍
🩷 Am I practicing discernment or am I trying to control people?
🩷 Am I making decisions because they align with my values and God’s guidance, or because I’m afraid of getting hurt or looking dumb?
🩷 If someone disappoints me, do I immediately blame myself ?
🩷 Do I trust myself to be okay even when life doesn’t go the way I imagined?
💓Extra journal prompts 💓
If you want to go a little deeper, you can also reflect on:
✨ When I look back at situations that went wrong, what part (if any) was actually within my control?
✨ Do I rely more on other people’s opinions than my own inner sense of judgment?
✨ Am I trying to avoid pain completely, or am I learning how to move through it?
✨ What would it look like for me to trust my own decisions more fully?
Key reminder:
You can’t control another person’s choices, but you can trust your own judgment, your values, and your ability to handle what happens next.
